“Today, I did it. I quit a thing without feeling guilty about it,” says the founder of a thing called You’re Not Finished. I’m supposed to be telling people to not give up, but I think it’s important to talk about instances in which it’s wise to.
Last November, I started participating a ministry at my church. It should have seemed pretty seamless to be part of it since I have a ton of experience & the ability to do it, but there were some issues:
- Time – spending more time at church than I thought I would & spending time getting there. A 35-minute drive on weekends turns into an hour & 40 minute drive during weekdays/peak traffic hours.
- Finances – spending more money on gas to get to church during the week & on weekends, sometimes sacrificing weekends (when possible to save money on gas). Also spending money on food, wardrobe, & other items needed.
- Energy – while doing this ministry was fun at times, I would be completely exhausted following any participation.
- Communication – minimal at times, not gonna lie.
Any form of service requires investing your personal resources to an extent, but I found myself making sacrifices that were unwise & detrimental to my peace & personal wellbeing. Worse, I found myself fearing some kind of terrible consequence if I didn’t make these choices.
That’s when I decided to take an inventory on how fit I was to serve in this ministry.
I realized an overweight, still grieving, working on financial stability Brittany is not one that needs to be sacrificing physical, emotional, & financial well-being for a ministry in which I can be easily replaced; especially in a space where the grace to be imperfect & grow isn’t there for me. That Brittany isn’t one who can serve to the best capacity. In many settings, not just religious ones, I see & hear of people who serve so well but end up taking breaks, stepping away, or even (& unfortunately) passing away due to physical, mental, & financial issues that could have been addressed/prevented if they were prioritized.
What does it matter if I have the talent or ability to do something if I can’t be around to do it well?
So I quit. Guilt free.
I quit with the realization that my time needed to be spent focusing on work, YNF, family, & personal improvement. The money I’m blessed with should be spent wisely & any excess should be given to those in need (giveaway next month, by the way – teehee). Spending $10 a month on a gym membership is much wiser than spending ~$20 a week on gas & more on eating out. The energy I spent on that will go back to investing in my spiritual well-being; with an excellent spiritual well-being I can invest more into my work, YNF, & relationships. & finally I can work on/value relationships in which communication is encouraged & common, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Here’s the main thing that fuels all of this:
I no longer want to express what looks like life externally while failing to address what feels like or is death internally.
What’s on the outside needs to match the inside & there needs to be consistency all around. Talent & external abilities mean absolutely nothing if I’m not physically, mentally, or financially well enough to carry it out.
That’s what finishing well really means.
With grace for mistakes & imperfections, that is exactly what I’m going to do.
I hope you’re encouraged to do the same.
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